Soul mates, Love, Friendships

Soul mates:

“A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, and make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert

This quote is hard for me. As much as I struggle with the idea that your soul mates leave you, it's so true. The people in our lives, right now, will probably not be there, no in fact the WILL NOT be there forever. I just wish I could keep all my favorite people in my life forever. So many people have been such important people to me in my life that I cannot grasp the concept that eventually they won't, even though I know from all my past experiences they won't be here forever.

I believe you can have multiple soul mates. Just the same way you can have mutiple friends and fall in love multiple times. At this current time in my life I have three. My idea of a soul mate is someone who you can just look at and feel calm, someone who knows you for you and accepts you, someone you can tell anything and everything to.

Love:

Not something I should be writing about since my experiences in love have not been pleasant. Now that I know what I want in a partner I will try.

"Unless it is mad, passionate, extraordinary love it is a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them."

This quote is how I will live my love life from here on out. Don't waste your time, your heart, nor your energy on mediocre love. We have this one life, life is so short and before you know it you look back on your life and see what you have done, who you have become. Do you want to look back on your love life and feel sadness or do you want to look back and feel happy for the great loves you once had? There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want, setting high expectations on future loves, and demanding yourself to accept nothing but greatness. It is out there, it will find you, just open your heart to people and let love in.

Friendships:

Friendships to me are a combination of love and soul mates without sexual behavior (in some cases there is). If you think about your best friend, can you tell them anything? Have they helped you transform your life? Is your love for them nothing less than passionate, extraordinary, and meaningful? Are they truthful, honest, and open with you? Will they tell you your zipper is down and your hair looks aweful? Friendships are important for your emotional and social growth. Make sure your friendships match your standards for love and soul mates. Expect nothing less and you will get nothing less.